Cosplaying Hermione has awoken me to a really disgusting gross side of the web I'm not okay with and here's why:

Warning: slightly sensitive material below.

I hate how this is an actual post I need to make, cosplaying my ultimate favorite fictional character since I was ten should of been and should continue to be nothing but joy for me and happiness for everyone who also admires Hermione Granger, I shouldn't be having to make this post yet here I am.

Let me just make clear before I venture into this: as my cosplay has gained attention, most of the comments have been so encouraging and lovely & has really cheered me on with regards to continuing my cosplay, I've met some amazing people and have really bonded with fellow Potter fans.

However, my cosplay has also opened my eyes to the truly repulsive and sexualised opinions of Hermione and Emma Watson herself that has made me feel so incredibly uncomfortable and so horrified. 

Comments like "post nude" I've even had requests to get into porn, to do adult versions of my cosplay, I even had a poll made about how many people would like to see me perform oral sex on a guy. This is even after all the hundreds of comments made under social media posts about me claiming "id still do her" and honestly, the comments got more and more sexual/immoral/repulsive I had to stop reading them as they made me feel violated.

Hermione is a school girl, so not only are you making me feel uncomfortable and gross, you're asking for a child to be sexualised That's what she is in the films, still a child, what you're asking is just beyond wrong. I get the usual excuse “its Emma Watson not Hermione” and here’s my answer to that:

  1.      If you’re the type of cyber harasser who’s asking me to get into porn as Hermione, perform sexual acts as Hermione, or if you are sexualising Hermione in any way: you are sexualising a child. End of. I don’t care if the actress is older, she wasn’t in the films and you know that fine well.
  2.      Its-still-sexual-harassment, its sexual harassment towards Emma Watson and its sexual harassment towards me. You wouldn’t speak to your mother or sister that way: why is it okay to speak to us that way? Treat woman as people and not as objects to speak to and treat as you see fit.

Now let's get into why it's so wrong to ask me in the first place: As said above: it's cyber sexual harassment, I feel harassed, and while you may not see anything wrong in this, it's not okay to assume that I’ll be okay with how your speaking to me just to fit your entertainment purposes. It’s objectifying, cosplaying is not consent for you to sexually harass a girl, it’s also definitely not a compliment and its further normalizing this culture in some of society with regards to sexually abusing woman.

I feel like I'm being sexualised for something I just find a joy in doing and it's taking away from the happiness cosplaying gives me, I can't imagine what Emma Watson herself must go through, I'm only seeing a glimpse of what she gets and it's horrific. My heart goes out to all the women who have to deal with this day in and day out, my problem is only a small grain of sand in a beach of sexual harassment that needs to be taken so much more seriously. 

XIV Ariel 

I mean if you haven't gathered by now I pretty much adore all Disney princesses but Ariel is another one of my ultimate favorites! shes a spontaneous, independent, creative and positive soul who always inspired me to follow my dreams and do what I love without fear of judgement. 

XIII Belle 

Belle is another if not my most favorite Disney princess, and I think alot of her self confidence and independence inspired me as a child to be the same. Belle doesn't conform to her small town and what they want her to be, instead she embraces who she really is and lives life the way she chooses, something that I feel so many young girls can look at and be empowered by.

Other Women are not my competition

So I’ve been thinking more and more over the past few years about how women can treat other women, and how unfair we are to one another sometimes. In every night out I’ve ever been on at least one negative comment is said about another woman’s looks, it’s like programmed into us, whether it stems from jealousy or pettiness its definitely relevant with women in today’s society. Thing is, is that I too was guilty of the odd jealous comment, I would see a really pretty girl and honestly think to myself “yeah but look her hair is kinda frizzy” or “that dress isn’t cute though” so I could feel better about myself and my comments were met with agreement from friends who are actually decent human beings they too (I would imagine) are just envious and give into this imaginary competition us women have with one another. 

I’ve made a conscious effort to try and stop my mind from immediately going negative when experiencing jealousy and to turn whatever envy I may possess into a positive encouraging emotion, as I realize us women cannot achieve true equality if we are constantly giving into beauty standards and using them against one another. As much as I changed I began to realize more and more that others weren’t, So when I seen this top from Pansy Path I just couldn’t agree more:

"Other women are not my competition, I stand with them not against them"  

Too often I see women tearing other women down, whether it’s about beauty standards or hobbies or relationships this culture of nit-picking other women needs to end in order for us to truly gain equality. Again, it’s not particularly our fault, we are brought up criticizing women for their relationships, clothing, make up, hair and basically anything else you can think of, we are brought up reading about a women’s fashion disaster instead of her accomplishments, we are brought up assessing a women’s relationships so harshly, this particularly comes from the media and then filters into our normal lives. I think the more we are aware that we are not in a competition with another women, the more we live our lives positively and break down the gender barriers that already exist. Life is much better and much lighter celebrating other women, rather than wanting them to fail for another’s personal gain. Stop putting other women down because unless they are negatively impacting your life then why try and negatively impact theirs? Stop (for lack of a better term) “slut shaming” stop making a women feel bad because of her make up or hair etc. If someone is pretty? Tell them they are pretty! If someone is talented? Tell them they are talented, encourage other women to achieve whatever they want to achieve in life. 

XII Teenage Wednesday Addams

To celebrate Halloween I thought id style an older version of one of my favorite Halloween characters: Wednesday Addams. Despite her rather creepy love of murder and death, she actually has an amazing set of morals and such high intelligence that's very empowering, she also isn't afraid to be herself and gives young girls a message to embrace who they are instead of pretending to be someone else. I decided to style her as a teen because I thought it would be an interesting concept, and im also older...despite the fact that I look twelve anyways haha! 

XI Teenage Minerva McGonagall 

McGonagall is my second (first is Hermione) favorite character from the Harry Potter series/novels, shes a bad ass woman who's not afraid to stand up for what she believes in and do the right thing despite all odds. I've always related to her, not only is she Scottish but shes also fiercely independent and also (I found out after an interesting read about her in Pottermore) a wee bit of a hopeless romantic, although her romantic life definitely doesn't interfere with her choices and her self confidence. She is just all around amazing and screams "girl power". She would of been a teen in the 50's so I styled her accordingly! 

X Teenage Eleven

Words cannot describe how amazing I thought this character was, she was such a strong empowering young woman who is also independent and so totally bad ass, I was honestly so inspired by this kid to love who I am and be empowered by my own self that I knew instantly I needed to-do a look on her. I in no way know what happens to El in season two so this is really just a guess at what she would be like as a teen! 

 A special thanks to Union Waffles: